I have been wanting to say a very big thank you for all the help you gave us during those traumatic months last year. I personally benefited greatly from your support during my discussions with Mark, as I felt able to speak my mind in an environment where I was not alone or intimidated. Our personal situation is greatly improved, we are all able to work together more, and apart from some small changes, the arrangements regarding James and Harry remain the same. Both boys are doing well. Although I still find communication with Mark rather exhausting! We just about manage to stick to the guidelines set up during mediation and I feel he listens to and respects my opinions much more than he used to. Hopefully he finds me easier to deal with too!
With Michael’s help, we were able to begin a much calmer discussion about how to separate, the practical issues of who lived where and communicating with the children, and some ground rules in the early stages of the process. We also drew up an outline of our finances, which was important in breaking down barriers and building trust between us. The progress we made with Michael gave us a framework for our issues, and helped us put some of the strong emotions aside, and after the first meeting we found it easier to talk outside the meetings too. It was a very positive experience for us both, at a very difficult time
Family disputes that are resolved through mediation can be cheaper,quicker and according to academic research, less acrimonious than those, which are settled through the courts.
With Michael’s help, we were able to begin a much calmer discussion about how to separate, the practical issues of who lived where and communicating with the children, and some ground rules in the early stages …….